Being someone that’s still overweight, trying to lose weight and vegan – a ton of people always want to give me advice. Tell me what I “should” be doing, how I “need” to make changes and why it’s “vital” to me and my health. I also get weird looks for not being a “typical/stereotypical” skinny vegan when people learn my lifestyle.
Personally I’m tired of it all. I’m such a hypocrite when it comes to this, it’s something I myself am working on. But everyone defines health in their own way. If you think it’s healthy to drink soda sometimes, fine – do it! If I think it’s okay to eat 10+ bananas a day, I’m gonna do it! I try not to tell people “Well, this is healthy – trust me!” instead I say “Well, this is a great alternative to insert random food here-“. So I’m trying to take an approach of “Hey, I think you’re doing a great job so far – if you want advice on making more changes then please feel free to hit me up for some advice”.
No matter what though, health will always be arguable. And while I totally agree somethings aren’t right for everyone, I still have to hold my tongue when it comes to friends and family. Because in all reality I’d love to be super blunt and ask why they are eating the way they do. I just care. I don’t define myself as a healthy person, yet. But I truly care about everyone around me. If I can’t even get through to those I love, what makes me think I can to complete strangers?
It’s a frustrating ordeal. We’re all on our own journey’s, I totally get that. It took me my whole life up until this point (2013) to finally decide to change for the better, and who knows if I’ve even made much of a difference internally. I do feel infinitely better, in terms of energy and outside health (i.e. skin, complexion, healing time) but that doesn’t mean much to others. People are so set in their ways of living, so I get change can be viewed as scary or unnecessary. You have to want to change in order to change, it’s that simple. Whether it be for your health – or definition of health, weight loss, overall well-being and/or quality of life in general.
For me, it’s all about quality of life now. At first I was so heavily reliant on weight-loss and being the “perfect size”. But my unhealthy obsession just led to frustration and bad choices. So now I’m focusing on making the best choices for me and listening to my body more. If I want dark chocolate at 2am, then fine. At least I’m not reaching for something worse.
The main point in this post is just getting a rant off my mind and letting you all know I’m not perfect. I’ve put back on a little weight over the last couple months, (can I blame the holidays?…) but that’s okay. I’m picking myself back up and getting on track again. Don’t let anyone tell you to change, do it for yourself and if you need a little help or motivation – email me. I’d love to help in any way I possibly can. Let’s make 2014 beautiful friends 🙂0